That's a big load of BS, if you ask me. If you and your OM planned the trip together then you should have went together! So long as you don't mind being the only girl in the group. I've gotten accustomed to it, so I don't mind, in this area there aren't many women riders, only me and my sister-in-law. So if she can't make a ride I'm usually the the only girl, I don't care as long as I'm riding