Asking For Trouble Or Not!!###$#$

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newbieHD

Discussion Starter · Dec 29, 2005

Now that my boat is gone, I broke the news to the wife over the weekend with a motorcycle jacket and helmet it’s time for a Harley or Victory. Of course the boat was like salt in an open wound the whole time I had it and looks like a bike is starting out the same way. I will most likely rent until I really decide on the model to get or at least have some sanity in my life by getting away from the home front. I would include her, but she doesn’t like the sun, heat (she was born/raised in Texas) or does she socialize anymore than with her family. Yea, you’re right, WTF did I marry her [email protected]@## I haven’t ridden in quite a few years but I am ordering the Ride Like a Pro DVD and the riding lessons from Harris here on the site. I personally feel that renting really doesn’t build up my experience level as it would be if I bought one to ride at my choice anytime. Do you think I am heading for trouble, as far as motorcycling, (I think the marital status is changing this year anyway) or just do like I said above? :yikes:

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Ice is Cool

· #2 · Dec 29, 2005

Dude,

You are so asking for trouble. If your wife gave you sh!t for a boat, it won't be any different with a bike. If the marital status is changing, wait. You'll end up giving her something for the bike in trade...you know the 50-50 thing. I speak not of wisdom...been there and done that.

shinbone1028

· #3 · Dec 29, 2005

Just tell her it's non negotiable.She'll respect you for it..he..he
works for me.

rgraham

· #4 · Dec 29, 2005

Just keep the bike at your girl friends house!:brows:

adlerx

· #5 · Dec 29, 2005

You are only asking for trouble if you wanna stay married! If you can afford the divorce, forget renting and go buy the bike today!

Cryptoboy

· #6 · Dec 29, 2005

If your marital situation is going to change, I would defintaly wait until the divorce was final. It would be a shame to get a bike, then lose your wife, then lose your bike as a result of the divorce process!

Also, I would take an MSF course if you are feeling rusty. There's no shame in taking the beginners course again, I know people that have ridden years that said they learned something out of it!

Good luck man.

LongRide

· #7 · Dec 29, 2005

What Cryptoboy said. Been there, and done that. She took a lot, but she can't take the smile off my face. :thumbsup:

chi-town

· #8 · Dec 29, 2005

I feel your pain on what to do but always remember.....

A HAPPY WIFE IS A HAPPY LIFE...................

timbo

· #9 · Dec 29, 2005

Speaking from experience here, don't buy anything until you either are committed to staying married or have a divorce behind you. My ex was a psycho and lucky for me I played my cards right and got outta that without a scratch. I celebrated the signed, sealed and delivered departure with a new Fatboy. A few years later I meet the woman of my dreams. Now she has a Deluxe and goes wherever I do. It's great.

As a couple you have to ask yourselves what do you have in common? If it's not all that much it's not that big a deal. But what you have to remember is that the person you married is still an individual that is to be respected for the decisions they make and the things that they do that make them happy in life. If neither can no longer respect that, it's time to move on. Trust me man, life is too short to spend it worrying about whether or not your going to piss someone off because of what you do. Do what makes you happy. As long as your not causing some sort of financial hardship, then what is the big deal? If she can't understand it, than you guys have more serious issues to contend with.

Good luck. And remember don't waste your life with someone your obviously never going to be happy with just for the sake of being married. Life is wayyyy to short bro.

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Sixgun

· #10 · Dec 29, 2005 (Edited)

My wife said if I get a Harley, she's gettin a divorce. :roflback: After I gave her a first ride on my sporty she loved it. The new street glide gives her the giggles.:yes: You never know what will happen until you bring that new toy home. Good Luck and remember only pay MSRP!~!Awesome!

stanc

· #11 · Dec 29, 2005

If you stay with her and you do get a bike, the first time you give her a ride, wait until it's cold and wet and scare the hell out of her. You won't have to worry about her wanting to ride no more!

GrayRider

· #12 · Dec 29, 2005

I just bring 'em home. It's always easier to apologize than ask for permission.

newbieHD

Discussion Starter · #13 · Dec 29, 2005

These replies are funny! The marital issue is the reason why I am going to rent, plus it just makes it more turmoil around the house (obviously at 55 years old I don’t give a f_ _ _). I don’t see it happening until well into the year, but I am not waiting until I’m single again to ride. I will need something to ease the stress from it and it won’t be a girl friend. Both my younger Bros are divorcing (older one beat us to it) and are still married and have GF’s. They are nuts!! and are playing with fire. Can you see a trend when you come from divorced parents when we were teens! We are all normal but the older we get the more expensive the toys are that we want and the wives don’t get it. !drunk! :thanks: @gree:

Some Guy

· #14 · Dec 29, 2005

My wife found out about my bike when the HD store called and said it was there. She couldn't complain though, she had gotten a new car the year earlier. (and I was still driving an 87 mazda pickup).

Basically, IMHO women often get the short end of the stick as far as big gifts go. If you want to keep her happy, why not buy her a 20k set of diamond earrings first, THEN get an HD? She probably won't complain a bit. If it's a situation of "toy for me, minivan to haul the kids for you", you shouldn't be suprised if she's a bit p.o.ed, as a marriage is supposed to be treating your spouse the way YOU want to be treated.

Y2K King

· #15 · Dec 29, 2005

if you're that unhappy, GET THE DIVORCE!!! you're just wastin time talkin about it. THEN get the bike to celebrate.-2$en#e-

rgraham

· #16 · Dec 29, 2005

Regarding the girlfriend advice....
"I'm Just Kidding!!"

8-Ball

· #17 · Dec 29, 2005

newbieHD said:
These replies are funny! The marital issue is the reason why I am going to rent, plus it just makes it more turmoil around the house (obviously at 55 years old I don’t give a f_ _ _). I don’t see it happening until well into the year, but I am not waiting until I’m single again to ride. I will need something to ease the stress from it and it won’t be a girl friend. Both my younger Bros are divorcing (older one beat us to it) and are still married and have GF’s. They are nuts!! and are playing with fire. Can you see a trend when you come from divorced parents when we were teens! We are all normal but the older we get the more expensive the toys are that we want and the wives don’t get it. !drunk! :thanks: @gree:

Lets see, blame the wife, no... blame the parents... blame the brothers... next the blame will probably fall on the divorce or lack thereof. I think this is the pattern.

No flame here, just looking at what you have written. The bike isn't going to be the solution... . What is it she wants??? give it to her.... maybe she will return the favor.

sonoffatboy

· #18 · Dec 29, 2005 (Edited)

newbieHD said:
These replies are funny! The marital issue is the reason why I am going to rent, plus it just makes it more turmoil around the house (obviously at 55 years old I don’t give a f_ _ _). I don’t see it happening until well into the year, but I am not waiting until I’m single again to ride. I will need something to ease the stress from it and it won’t be a girl friend. Both my younger Bros are divorcing (older one beat us to it) and are still married and have GF’s. They are nuts!! and are playing with fire. Can you see a trend when you come from divorced parents when we were teens! We are all normal but the older we get the more expensive the toys are that we want and the wives don’t get it. !drunk! :thanks: @gree:

get the bike.....but one thing is always clear for those the "wait so long" is that you will be pissed off not getting back on road years ago..
IMHO get the HD (fogit the vic)...

at 55 you have lots of miles to ride..hey maybe you'll ride till your ninety) but we all have a "limited" number of seasons to do it!

ccrane2299

· #19 · Dec 29, 2005

Get the bike now. With the falling resale values, maybe 50% will cost HER something...lol
Chris

IronMajor

· #20 · Dec 29, 2005

NewbieHD
What is you're motivation and expected results? Control is a tool my ex used, what side of the fence are you on? If having a scoot is the goal than look at it for what it is, ride and enjoy. Others gave excellent advice concerning community property. What ever happens, you are not alone and deserve you’re happiness when it is all said and done.
V/R
Chris

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